At a quiet table in a dimly lit Lower East Side Italian restaurant, Lauren Urasek, a poised 23-year-old makeup artist with a Cleopatra haircut and cherry-red lipstick, is lit by the glow of her i Phone as she flips through online-dating messages. You’re like the girl I would make a profile of if I was making my ideal match. not usually into girls with tats but ur sexy we should chill i got a huge cock … To find out how some people manage to stand apart from the masses, and how it feels to be so desired, I asked Rudder to introduce me to the most popular OKCupid daters in the city in four categories—straight and gay women and straight and gay men.I think I literally said out loud, “Yes, you.” “That’s kind of normal,” she says, sipping a bourbon on the rocks. Rudder analyzed the data from a one-week period in January and used a simple methodology: finding the users who receive the most messages from potential suitors. “I get so many of those …” I would swim the Amazon upstream with an airtank filled with Rosie O’Donnell’s queefs … “Seventy percent of the messages are straight-up blunt, vulgar shit. you need to not approach it that way.” On the free online-dating site OKCupid, Lauren is known as nebulaeandstuff: 23. In New York, online dating is practically a municipal utility, connecting millions of strangers. he’s from South Dakota,” Lauren says, turning off her phone, which will ping with a dozen new queries before the waiter brings the check. I found her after a conversation with OKCupid co-founder Christian Rudder, who famously crunched the site’s user data on the blog OKTrends and sold a book based on it, Dataclysm, for seven figures. “I don’t get intimidated easily,” her profile warns. She likes “hockey, whiskey, swimming in an open ocean, down comforters, astronomy.” Her photos are striking: a wide-eyed close-up, overlit like an album cover; a low-res camera-phone shot that flaunts a short skirt and the gypsy tattoo that curls around her thigh.
“I’m not a stuck-up girl, but I think looks are No. As a makeup artist, Lauren spends her days at photo shoots and knows what makes a good picture.“I believe in a head-to-toe shot to show what you look like,” she says. ” She thinks it helps that her profile reflects her idiosyncratic interest in astronomy: She has a moon and a planet tattooed on her knuckles; she quotes a physicist and links out to “Even if an amazingly attractive girl said something stupid in their profile, she’ll still get messages,” she says.“So I feel like I’m intelligent and people think I look good, so I guess it’s as simple as that?
” It doesn’t hurt that Lauren, after getting out of a four-year relationship with a “pathological liar” who had a drug problem, isn’t necessarily looking for anything serious.
So, in OKCupid’s searchable “I’m looking for …” section, she, like most women, selected “long-term dating,” “short-term dating,” and “new friends.” Unlike most women, she also selected “casual sex,” figuring she might as well tell the truth.