Introvert shy dating


The common narrative about introverts is that they're shy and antisocial — not exactly qualities you'd want in a date.But while it's easy to assume that introverts would have a harder time dating than extroverts, the reality may surprise you. For it she interviewed more than 50 introverts — single and looking, in relationships with extroverts and other introverts, newlyweds and divorcees — and what she found complicates our typical assumptions about introverts."I think many introverts go into the dating field with a sort of one-down feeling," Dembling told ."It can feel like nobody will notice you among all those bubbly extroverts.The way I think of it: Extroverts sparkle, introverts glow.If you appreciate your own quiet glow, other people will see it too."But introversion by definition isn't just about being social or antisocial; , describing someone with a strong ability to turn inward and concentrate on their own feelings.And while Dembling says introverts may have a harder time meeting people to date, she maintains that "dating itself, however, is not hard for introverts because we tend to be most comfortable in one-on-one social interactions, where we don't have to compete for attention." In fact, being an introverts may actually have some unexpected advantages in the dating field. They simply don't gain energy from social interactions like extroverts do, which can make small talk feel"I think another misconception is that introverts would be dull dates," Dembling says."In fact one-on-one situations are where introverts can shine.We are very good listeners, good at drawing people out, enjoy substantive conversation.