Work with our designers to create an invitation or card design from scratch.Send along your specific vision and wording and our designers will create a template that is perfectly suited to you.Advanced designwork or hand-done art falls under a fully custom design service. In today’s special bonus episode, Caitlin Schiller talks with Eli Finkel, professor and social psychology researcher at Northwestern University. And I’d define it for you, but let’s let Finkel define it himself. So I would like it if you could introduce yourself, please. I’m a professor at Northwestern University in the psychology department and the Kellogg School of Management. EF: Well, one of the things that seems unfortunate to me is that there’s this scholarly field called “relationship science” or “relationship research”. Simplify is for anybody who’s taken a look at their habits, their happiness, their relationships, or their health, and thought, there’s got to be a better way to do this. So Finkel basically says the age of business marriage is over. lots of other isms too, probably—that Finkel calls the Self-Actualizing Marriage. So, aside from being a married person and having vested interests in researching modern marriage and what it’s all about, how did you get started down this road researching for your new book ? We’ve entered a new age—one propelled by individualism, capitalism, globalism, feminism… This is pretty interesting, particularly when you take it in the context of our last interview with Rebecca Traister.
And so, one of the things I wanted to do with this book is to bring some of the major findings from that scientific discipline to the broader public. What were you expecting to find out when you went picking through the scientific findings to bring them to the masses?EF: Well, when I first set out to write the book – it wasn’t this book.The working title was “The Freighted Marriage”, and the idea was that we’re asking more and more of our marriage over time, while we’re actually investing less and less time alone with our spouse than in the past.And so in some sense we’re kind of ruining marriage, we’re kind of suffocating it.