Rules of casual dating


You know the obvious ones: the one-night stand, the booty call, sex by appointment.More recent variations include "rec" (recreational) sex, which exists because, as one friend told me, "every great athlete needs practice." And then there's "cereal" sex, which is a one-night stand amid a dry spell that, like cereal, is satisfying in the moment but leaves you needing further sustenance shortly thereafter. When I hosted my ninth birthday party at a Japanese steakhouse, we were instructed to remove our shoes prior to sitting in our little elevated wooden booth.Then we enjoyed a fiery display that dazzled the senses and whet the appetite before a positively succulent meal.In casual sex, you should similarly check your emotions at the door.



It's like role-playing, which, it turns out, many people really like.3) Be a gentleman—and an animal. No one likes a bad breakup, especially if there was no relationship to start.Casual sex requires a delicate balance: respect and generosity and safety, coupled with unadulterated, unabashed corporeality. The moment you start having casual sex is the beginning of the end. You're a gentleman and an animal, like a werewolf in a top hat. The arrangement, while enjoyable and healthy, is transient and unsustainable. Find your perfect combination: You're a (more upbeat version of) Edward Norton's polite narrator and, at the same time, Brad Pitt's six-pack-jacked Tyler Durden. You're Clark Kent in the streets and Superman in the sheets.4) Control your portions. It may last for a while, but ultimately, your little microcosm is destroying itself, which, in the words of famed sex columnist Al Gore, is an inconvenient truth.

Imagine a food pyramid, only for casual relationships.

The base (reserved for grains) should be occupied by sex. In between those extremes, you'll find activities like foreplay, showering, watching TV, talking, and preparing post-sex pastrami sandwiches.